Thursday, April 06, 2006

Other Outlets

There are many of you who read my blog, and I am pleased that there is a dedicated group that posts comments. I assure you that I enjoy these comments and take them to heart.

If there are men out there that fantasize of being cuckolded, but have never experienced it, tell me what outlets do you have for your fantasies. You can read this blog, and there are other sites that discuss the topic, but is that enough? Are there videos that are intelligently made? It is not like you can "buy" a cuckolding experience like you can a sexual and even a femdom experience. By necessity cuckolding must be done by someone with whom you are close.

Your comments are welcome.

23 comments:

Wayne C. Rogers said...

Lady Katherine,
Though I've experienced cuckoldry a number of times throughout my life, I now pretty much live out my fantasies by writing erotic fiction that deals with FemDom and cuckoldry, some of which can be found of Literotica.com and in Elise Sutton's Predominant e-zine from May of 05 right up to the present, not to mention my own blog. Of course, it's not the same thing. In this particular case, reality is much better than fantasy. Because of that, I'm in search of a LTR with a woman to love and to serve and to be cuckolded by. At age 55, this is much more difficult to find than it was in my thirties and forties. Still, few things can generate such a furnace of sexual heat in a submissive male than by watching his wife, or Mistress, making love to another man. This is my obsession, and it will be with me till the day I die.

Fortdistrait said...

My wife hasn't been unfaithful, but we have an agreement that as and when she wishes she should feel no constraint. She says that the knowledge that she is at liberty makes her all the more devoted to me, so perhaps it can be counterproductive to invite being cuckolded. Although never actively unfaithful, she flirts openly with other men, and she will often express frank admiration for the attractiveness of one or another, and that I find deeply submissive and deeply satisfying.

iobey said...

Ms. West,
There are other elements to FLR's which you at one time discussed and explored publicly with your devoted fans. I'm curious what a day in your life is like with your obedient eager-to-please husband?

Queen'sKnight1 said...

Katherine, I have to say that iobey echos my sentiments completely. What happened to the personal body pampering, the financial control, going shopping while he carries your purse and shopping bags, all those other intimate and wonderful elements of FLR and subordinate male devotion. The only aspect of your relationship you have mentioned of late is cuckoldry. One wonders whether this is now the sole dynamic upon which your relationship pivots or are you simply not writing about the others? If cuckoldry has become a singular obsessive focus, I worry for the health of your relationship.

A strong fine wine makes or breaks a sumptuous meal. One who consumes wine only, however, to the exclusion of all other nourishment, is risking health and life.

guggler said...

My problem for a long time was that I lived a second, secret life within the world of submission and cuckoldry. Despite I talked to my wife about my desires, I couldn't get her interested in it. So, I was just trying to live it out in fantasy. I was reading stories (literotica and many more places), searching for movies, chatting, etc.

I didn't realize that I was pulled in by a swirl of pornography, which threatened to destroy my mind and life. One fine day, after reading some essay's and Leopold Sacher-Masoch's "Venus if furs", I realized my mistake. I stopped living in my dream-world and started serving my wife in any way I could. Without ever expecting a reward. I realize this as a sweet torment. She knows of course why all these things happen and utilizes my submission to her from time to time. This bringes me to unbelievable heights of excitment.

Lately in bed she gets excited when I talk about her being taken by strange men. It surprised me greatly and gave my hopes a jump.

An outlet I use in the last month is my blog (http://thefemaledomination.blogspot.com/), which I started originally because of You, Katherine.

Of course we might be a little too young for the REAL thing. We want to make a couple of kids, so cuckolding would be a little dangerous for now. I think we are doing well, to keep it as a fantasy and an occasional flirt when going out. Besides, I get my kinky pleasure already by submitting in my own silent ways.

Be well!

Richard said...

Before my wife actually started dating other men, she was pretty open to reading cuckold theme erotica in bed with me, and discussing them. Sometimes she'd role-play with me assuming the role of a boyfriend staying over while her husband was out of town.

In addition to satisfying my desire to explore my fetish, this set the stage for her to take the next step and actively seek men to have casual relationships with.

regards,

Richard

girlybs said...

Lady Katherine,

With all due respect, I disagree with you that you do not share your latest cuckolding experience. The whole purpose of this current blog was to walk us thru a real LFA cuckolding experience that you planned, processed and then intended to analyze. Part of the analysis is to include your readers comments after they hear all the facts.

True, some of us will derive some personal pleasure from reading about the event, but I believe most of us would learn a tremendous amount about a true well-planned cuckolding. You are, by far, the best source to relay the experience. After your description, many of us may decide not to ever experience it, whereas some may be assured to proceed. Why stop at the five yard line?

Forgive me for asking, realizing that you specifically said that we not pester you about it, but I need to ask - sorry. Please give us all the details of your last cuckolding experience with Jim.

Respectfully,
girlybs

guggler said...

Dear Katherine,
girlybs is probably speaking for many or most readers. But he doesn't really say that your blog is really exciting. Truth is that the sexual joy that derives from reading your blog, is probably more attractive than the idea of showing how things work out when a wise wife dominates and ultimately cuckolds her husband.

Please don't bother. This is your playground and YOU make the rules. I will be your faithful reader and I'm sure many more will stay as well, with or without posting about your last experience with Jim.

Take care!
guggler

Curious George said...

Methinks Lady K has bitten of the cuckold apple and finds nothing else tastes as sweet. Guess what? She is right. Cuckolding is the ultimate form of female domination. The emotional fulfillment my wife attains cuckolding me with her boyfriend makes everything else pale in comparison. Ass worship, foot worship, massages, housework, cooking, attending to her body, giving her financial control, and even worshiping her pussy using my tongue, lips, teeth, and fingers are damn good, but they aren't even on the same plane as cuckoldry.

There are plenty of internet sites and movies, but to echo Wayne Rogers, they aren't anywhere as good as what a couple does in real life.

It is playing with fire, especially when emotions are true and not faked. If you're wired like me hearing your wife profess her love for her boyfriend as you clean her of his seed, openly wish she could turn back the hands of time and make a baby with him, ask you if you want to enter her, her voice a seductive whisper, her hand gently stroking what is a painful erection, telling her you do only to hear her tell you no, only his is allowed inside her, is sweet music to your ears.

Women and men can be equally obsessed by the cuckold lifestyle. What Lady K's husband may not realize is that she needs him as much as he needs her. It is a symbiotic relationship. A relationship with Jim won't be nearly as good without her cuck. Loving Lady K won't be the same without her having another man in her life.

girlybs said...

I respectfully disagree with guggler. First of all, I had expressed my feelings in a previous comment regarding how great Lady K is and how exciting her blog is. I am not questioning that. Figuritively speaking, although it's 'her playground and SHE makes the rules' does it make sense for her to all of a sudden pick up HER ball during the game and go home because she wants to play another game instead?

I know this this blog is not a porno site to get off on, but i personally would like to see more follow through. Again, no disrespect and no sour grapes. It's just my opinion. Do many of you agree with me?

girlybs

Curious George said...

Girlybs, you are not alone in feeling a bit cheated but I see Lady Katherine being more like Lucy and we hapless Charlie Browns being lured to read her blog hoping for more, more details being hinted at, we run, and just as we follow through on our kick, nothing but air and we land on our ass. She walks over to us, evil grin on her face, and holds the ball over our head, "Were you hoping to kick this?"

Whether you feel cheated or not, one thing is certain, she does have coming back for more. Reminded me of a book I read "Good in Bed". She's describing her relationship with her dad using as a metaphor the rat who presses a lever; sometimes food drops out sometimes it doesn't. It's the hope that keeps the rat pressing.

cheq said...

I discovered this blog six weeks or so back, spent the day reading the full contents, concluding at that point the adventure was over until Katherine set in motion the renewed affair (with her sub-hub's very active and eager agency!) and so was as disappointed as the rest of you at the accountus-interruptus.

The comments that followed compel me now to break reader's silence and joint the fray.

I am married 20 years to an extraordinary woman whom, five years, while she was being ardently wooed by a co-worker whose attraction she fully acknowledged, I invited to enjoy the pleasures of what was being offered to her. She told me - standing me straight-up still in shock - that IF she slept with him, she wouldn't come back. That was the last time I urged her on. Though she knows it's there, she is contemptuous of the lifestyle, and dismissed my efforts to encourage her adventuring as nothing more than pimping her. Ironically, that is, responding to Katherine's question, precisely how I deal with the matter today. I fantasize that she's a prostitute, owned for profit-making purposes by a (real) dominant ex of hers who preceded me, and that she spends her days selling herself for him, only later coming home to me thoroughly used, exhausted, stained and filled.

The fantasy is the most powerful stimulant in our sex life, and has carried us to the most intimate and erotic place we've been in years -- since before we were married frankly.

In a future post, I will tell you all of the 100% true story of my first wife, who did indeed cuckold me through most of our eleven years, sometimes with my knowledge, yet often, as I later learned, without me having a clue. It was, as they say, painfully delicious.

hunterx said...

I myself feel somewhat cursed by the fantasy although I think it has been completely natural for me. The sex drive is the most compelling of human needs and the cuckolding fantasy, once I experienced it in real life has been obsession. Whwn my domineering gf cheated on me and then told me about it I took it badly but was aroused and slipped easily into the cuck role. Afterll I had alresy been reading those penthouse letters magazines to her, I remember thinking eevn as a teen the if I had sex with a woman and she didnt oragsm I would go down on her even if I had come inside. So i guess noneof this is surprising and the internet has both been an outlet and a spur of the fantsy. My current gf is warming up to it but hasn't been keen on it. I ould neveer marry her unless she cucked me. It wouldn't be fair to either of us. Likewise I would never be a cuck to a woman I didn't love. I just don't find it appealing. If the women that ppost or are posted about at the various internet sites have singlr freinds who they could get interested, that would be great. There sure seems to be a lot of wanna be men. By the way Wayne Rogers fiction is the best. I would like it if he had an entire novel published.

Wayne C. Rogers said...

Hunterx,
I do have a novel, The Ten Days of Submission, that was published four years ago by Pink Flamingo Publishers. The novel went out of print at the end of December and is now being reprinted by Elise Sutton in her Predominant e-zine, beginning this year with the January/February issue. She's publishing a segment in each bi-monthly issue. You can go to her website (I think Lady Katherine has a link to it) and check out the rates for subscribing to Predominant. The e-zine also has a lot of excellent articles on Female Domination, plus interviews with Dominant women, some of whom cuckold their husbands, movie reviews, and other great stuff.

Redleg said...

Dearest Lady Katherine,

I am at once enthralled and horrified by the beauty and eloquence of your writing. I am enthralled because I imagine that truly selfless submission to a Woman may involve cuckoldry, and its images are admittedly deeply imbedded in my psyche. But, I am also horrified because I do not know if the realization of it wouldn't rip my heart from me.

I have also written literotica as others who have posted to your amazing site have, but have as of yet not attempted to publish any. My primary work is a novel that explores a very potentially realistic society of Dommes that work together to further the goal of bringing up new generations of ever more educated and powerful Woman. Of course they also enslave their hapless males, amongst which is my character. I have skated the boarders of cuckoldry in that the Females will use their well endowed males sexually, then ritualistically have their new slaves service them orally afterwards. This image is extremely powerful to me, becoming predominant (no pun intended) over most other submissive fantasies I experience. I genuinely believe that the decisions belong to the Woman, and would never attempt to force any of my fantasies upon one who took me, as I want Her to have my mind above all else. But the image is powerful.

I have read Elise Sutton's fine book, but please allow me to say that your writing style is amongst the best I have seen anywhere. Simply reading your words causes both the amazing realization of my submission and also the trepidation of the actual event, were I ever to experience it, to well powerfully forth in me. Haunting, in a good way M'Lady. Thank you. God Bless.

femserver said...

Ma'am You should continue Your story Ma'am. You are among the best Female Led relationships Ma'am. One that is true and driven as they should be Ma'am. i hope You change Your mind Ma'am.

hoping steve

jett c said...

Katherine

I greatly enjoy your blog. My wife and I continue to work on our own femdom relationship. Cuckolding me is one of her favorite fantasies as it is mine. We have been livng a femdom lifestyle on and off for about a year now. I think in time we will try cuckoldry but for now the fantasy and the talk about it is enough for me. I believe that this new lifestyle has been a great benefit to our marriage especially during the periods when we are deep into the lifestyle. Even during the times when we are not seriously paracticing femdom, its imprint still guides us. Our marriage is happier for it. Like many who comment here, cuckoldry is a fixation of mine, however, I find myself wanting to lay a strong foundation in this lifestyle before pressing on.

oldbear said...

Dear Lady katherine, thank you for a grat question. To all you guys who responded thanks for some great and informative posts.

Dear Lady, I am different than the rest of these guys in that I do not want to be cuckolded, and at least where I am at now I would not tolerate it. Thanks to your blog and your adoring hubby and some great people like Wayne I now see the merit of it for some, just I aint one of them.

What I have done is be the sex-toy of the Lady who is cheating. It happened once when I was young. In the sense that she used me to get hot sex and taunt her soon to be ex i suppose I was used just like the man I was cucking.

It was not the Dombull slaps the hubby around thing. But while we were going at it she definitely was my **tch. I had tow cases where I would not let intense flirting or makeouts go farther because the women were married.

All the above is totally HOT for me.

i find that Wayne's description of such types of events is pretty darn good! I can just about see the foxy ways of his cruel vixens and me having my way with them.

Now that I am married I would never do it with another Lady, but if I were single I might cuck some guy if I were convinced he craved it, it wouldnt hurt his marriage, or do permanent damge to him or her.

So to answer your question directly Lady K, if a story the quality of Waynes was illustrated with good photos I could relive to a large extent what happened a quarter of century ago!

But I am guessing since the negative emotions and the finality of it accrue to the cuck hubby they cant quite get the same bite from a story.

But if they never do the actual they wont know what they are missing.

Let the now defunct Marias Diary dot com be a warning, once a sexually intense lady starts cucking there is no turning back.
Those of us who read it and corresponded however little with Maria know what can happen to hapless cucks who crave humiliation!!

Thanks for a GREAT question Lady Katherine, I have now rethought and learned something about my past I never analyzed before!

Haaaaaaa said...

I agree this is a great question. I confessed my cuckolding fantasies to my wife two years ago. She refused to get involved in cuckolding because she believes I couldn't handle the jealousy based on an incident that happened when we were in college 25 years ago. In the past year, I have talked about her having sex with other guys when I am inside her. She says she doesn't understand it, but for while she would reciprocate with comments of her own. This was great and I hoped it would continue or that we could build on it, but it is starting to fizzle out. It was great while it was happening, but my wife just isn't into it. I could have continued this way forever.

My 2nd favorite outlet is to watch amatuer (real amatuer) movies where the guy is filming his wife with another guy(s). I try to imagine myself being him and usually that does it for me. I search the news groups for people who post these movies and have collected quite a bit of them.

Arnold said...

Hi Katherine,

I am a new particpant to the LFA blog. I see there are evidently a lot of interested male readers. I am surprised there isn't a lot more female readers (at least responding).

I just finished reading your entire blog. I don't recall how I came across it, but I was looking at the subject matter of female-led relationships. Why I was looking it the subject can only be ascertained by a secret desire for this kind of lifestyle, that I was not aware of earlier in my marriage.

I am a 50 year old professional white male married for 23 years.

Our marriage can best be described as a "flexible" leader/follower arrangement.

I have come to realize, after thinking back on past experiences, that I desire, and have always desired, a dominant female where a sexual relationship is concerned.

This realization became more crystallized when I also admitted to myself that the cuckold lifestyle is intriguing, because doing anything to enhance my wife's physical pleasure is a joy for me.

Thinking about participating in the total cuckold experience as your husband did is a tremendous turn on for me. The fact that it was mutual and based on adoration made it very delightful to read, although I was conflicted about the levels of control that involved humiliation of your husband. I would like to know what was the ultimate objective behind the golden showers. Absolute power? Is a loving female-led relationship about gaining absolute power?

I've suggested the idea to my wife during passionate love making that she take a lover, and described how she might undertake the process. We've also whispered to each during our love making the kinds of scenarios that might play out. I can tell you she turned on by the talk. Her orgasms were more intense.

But that's where it ends. My wife expresses no interest in following through. She'll go only as far as fantasy. So I guess that leaves it with simply her leading our "closed" relationship.

I'd like to hear your thoughts, and those of the females in this blog on what I've shared with you.

I'd also like to know more about your husband's state of mind at this point. Are you going to cuckold your husband again, and as a rountine part of your relationship?

Thank you for taking the time to read my comments. I hope to hear back.

Arnold.

Granted said...

Since the end of my marriage till now (some five years) its taken me to understand what I was wanting from the relationship, and equally what my wife was very subtly hinting since her early twenties. At the time I could not bring myself to allow full expression of my wifes growing sexual desires, only intellectually at a distance could the thought of letting her sleep with other men be entertained. The world of cuckoldry seemed impossible. So glad to find a site such as these to help explain the some times very obvious fantasies I`ve been experiencing. I`m 32 now and hope that in my next relationship I will be able to slowly cultivate these fantasies more openly. Thank you to all, nice to know that next time I`m not alone in this seemingly most common desire...To be cuckolded, just for me! Grant

Granted said...

Since the end of my marriage till now (some five years) its taken me to understand what I was wanting from the relationship, and equally what my wife was very subtly hinting since her early twenties. At the time I could not bring myself to allow full expression of my wifes growing sexual desires, only intellectually at a distance could the thought of letting her sleep with other men be entertained. The world of cuckoldry seemed impossible. So glad to find a site such as these to help explain the some times very obvious fantasies I`ve been experiencing. I`m 32 now and hope that in my next relationship I will be able to slowly cultivate these fantasies more openly. Thank you to all, nice to know that next time I`m not alone in this seemingly most common desire...To be cuckolded, just for me! Grant

Granted said...

Since the end of my marriage till now (some five years) its taken me to understand what I was wanting from the relationship, and equally what my wife was very subtly hinting since her early twenties. At the time I could not bring myself to allow full expression of my wifes growing sexual desires, only intellectually at a distance could the thought of letting her sleep with other men be entertained. The world of cuckoldry seemed impossible. So glad to find a site such as these to help explain the some times very obvious fantasies I`ve been experiencing. I`m 32 now and hope that in my next relationship I will be able to slowly cultivate these fantasies more openly. Thank you to all, nice to know that next time I`m not alone in this seemingly most common desire...To be cuckolded, just for me! Grant