Friday, July 29, 2005

Welcome to My Blog

My husband and I are the happiest couple I know, but it wasn't always this way. The first ten years of our marriage were relatively happy, but they were nothing like the years that have passed since we stumbled onto the idea of loving female authority. My husband and I now share a sense of both emotional and physical intimacy that simply did not exist in our relationship when we both shared the title of "head of household" in our marriage. Both of our lives have been so dramatically improved by his surrender to my authority, that I now feel compelled to share our experience with others.

Like so many men, my husband has always know that submission to women represented at the very least a sexual turn-on for him, and at best, as he now believes whole-heartedly, the key to his happiness. His first introduction to very thoughtful discussion on this topic was Elise Sutton's site. He spent a very long time reading all the advice and stories that Elise posted on her site, but still never developed the courage to approach me regarding his feelings.

One day I came into the room while he was looking at her site, and in a very awkward moment, he was forced to confess what he was reading. In his defense, not wanting to share the site with me was perfectly understandable. The Elise Sutton material was not necessarily Wife-Worship 101. While she is an amazing woman that artfully articulates the majesty of a man's submission to a woman, she also goes into advanced femdom topics that I was quite frankly in no way prepared to read. Elise deals intelligently and forthrightly with topics such as cuckolding, golden showers and strap-on- play. These are all worthy topics of discussion and the subject of future posts, but they were not exactly entry-level material for a woman that did not even realize her husband was submissive. Perhaps Lady Misato's Real Women Don't Do Housework site would have been a better first cut at femdom, but even Lady Misato discusses strap-on-play in some detail. To my knowledge, the more vanilla sites attempting to maintream the wife-led household, of which Emily (and her husband Ken) Addison's site is probably the best known, did not exist at the time.

So my introduction of my husband's submission was mostly his trying to convince me that he did not desire to be a cuckold husband, did not want to swallow my urine, and did not want me to emasculate and humiliate him with a large rubber phallus. We have since revisited his thoughts on each of these topics, but suffice it to say on that very fateful day, he was intent on convincing me first and foremost that he merely wanted to surrender his final say on household decisions to my authority, and wanted to focus his every spare bit of energy on my pleasure and happiness.

Today, we love each other and express our love for each other in ways that were never possible before. He is completely submissive to me, but other than the two of us, nobody knows it. (My name in my profile is fictitious to protect our privacy.) He does everything I expect of him including household chores, pedicures, and massages. Despite the fact that he is the primary breadwinner, I run the household finances and give him a very reasonable allowance. He never questions my authority, although he is sometimes lax in his duties. For this, I only need to firmly remind him of my expectatoins. I orgasm every time we are intimate. He is kept in male chastity so that his orgasms are carefully managed to maintain his enthusiasm and his energy level.Future posts will explore various dimensions of our relationship and pose a number of questions for discussion that I think will be interesting to the community.

To all, feel free to ask me anything and please, if you enjoy this site, make others aware of it.


foxster said...

I would also recommend Caring Domination ( as a good site about how to deal with a "suddenly" submissive husband.

curious said...

i want to dominate my husband.. hes been through alot and sometimes doesnt have the best attitude...hes talked to me about FLR. i dont know how to approach it..should i actually force him into submission? do you have any aadvice? confused