Thursday, November 09, 2006

Synchronized Breathing

I love to lie next to my husband and syncrhonize our breathing in such a way that my every exhale is his every inhale. The air from my lungs is as intimate as any of the other bodily exchanges I have described on here, and offers a wonderful window to intimacy. Also, not all of our intimate activity provides us face to face contact. I do love my husband, after all, and love staring into his eyes.


Queen'sKnight1 said...

Synchronized breathing is an element of Tantra.

oldbear said...

Damn QK, you beat me to the punch!

Glad to see you post again Lady Katherine!

Wayne C. Rogers said...

I thought it had to do with synchronized swimming!!!

*BB* said...

Tantra is extremely erotic, in all its forms. And looking into the eyes of someone devoted to you is just as erotic.

Miranda said...

Smiles....thats beautiful.

dietbo said...

Hello, Ms. West. I would like to write you some of my thoughts. Unfortunately I can’t figure out how to send you an e-mail so I use this comment site. I am sorry.

Oh WOW! Your site is the most erotic story I have ever read in my life. Watching the process and the progress in female authority and vice versa in male submission takes my breath away. If I take the impact energy you cause on my emotions only by reading, than I shiver by the thought of the female power your husband is exposed to.

I am a male (from Germany) who just discovered his submission potential. So I am in the state so many men were before me: Seeking the courage and the best way to reveal my desire toward my wife.
I am torn! Your story is a dream come true to my submissive soul and I envy your husband, but it also scares me to the bone. I am standing on the cliff and want to spread my wings but a voice in my head is desperately calling not to do.

I agree with you that (maybe all) men have an innate need to submit to women. And I admire your insight that submission is the expression of men’s love. Many men – like me – who are feeling this strong toward their wives would rather use the term devotion. Because they feel also longing, awe, adoring, beauty … words which are closer to devotion and also to love than to submission. The wish to be near or even to unite to/with whom I long for is first hand a mental feeling. When the picture of a Goddess you longed for comes to life because your wife is acting now like a Goddess – men get overwhelmed with love and devotion. If the Goddess adds the sexual energy to her acting then there is simply nothing that men wouldn’t do to keep up this dream come true. Then they are more than willing to submit anything they have. Limits are only given by things that make the man fear losing partial or even complete the closeness to his Goddess. No corporal pain, no degradation, no sexual denial is comparable to the fear to lose his Goddess. Maybe this fear is behind the story of the lost paradise.

Cuckoldry plays on the edge of this fear. And I am not sure whether the cuckold shows the deepest love a man is possible to give – deeper than even the ultimate fear - or whether a cuckold is a broken and emptied man. A man with death emotions who is only living through his wife – completely adapted to her emotions.

Every woman who ever has flirted knows about the power they have over men. And also they have experienced how joyful it is to feel this power. Obviously they don’t realise how deep they can overpower men. Submissive behaviour of her husband seems to activate this side of joyful domination.

What scares me to the bone is that there is no control of the dominant side of a wife. Everything that appeals her at first likely becomes sooner or later an uncontrolled urge which she can’t get out of her head. Well, once experienced a power rush, doesn’t it has appeal to see a handsome man and picture how to conquer him? Taking him by his innate need to submit and lead him from power rush to power rush. Condition him in wary steps. Until his entire fate is depending on the limits of a woman. A woman who thinks she knows her limits until she realises that there are more appealing fantasies beyond her limits – she just didn’t know that.

I am sorry, as you see by the turn this letter took, my “caution” calling voice inside has succeeded. I still feel the urge to spread my wings to meet my Goddess-wife. I know she loves me not less than I love her. I know from the standpoint we have today she wouldn’t do anything harm to my soul. Since we knew that we belong together we went side by side the ups and downs of life. Now I should leave her alone? She climbing up the unknown path of dominance while I went down the way to submission? Stretching the bond of our love to unknown limits? Force and counteracting force is the rule that holds the universe together. Who say that this is not necessary when it comes to female dominance?

I understand now better why Ms. Sutton before others points out that love has to be the ultimate basis of a female leadership. As far as I can see, love is indeed the only counteracting force that can keep the joy of dominance in balance. But the more I think the less I do understand in what this love shows expression. Is acting like the Goddess of his dreams her love? Or is it not just heating up his love (to keep his submission working)? Being loved is a wonderful feeling. Being loved and worshiped like a Goddess might feel even better. But getting love is not giving love. Passionately adore, worship and please my Goddess is also a wonderful feeling. But is this a mutual love? How gets the submissive men showed that he in person is being loved. What expression of his wife allows him the feeling of being loved? Have I missed a hint?

Sure, a marriage which shows no or few expressions of love at all, can be improved by concerted love to one object. But that would not be enough for me. I need to feel that my wife loves me and not only my (submissive) behaviour.

Please forgive me my critical tone. I am after all a man who feels the strong urge to submit under female authority. I admire the lifestyle you propagate and live. You are the pioneer women of this style what give you a special aura – like amazons. And I am just a reluctant man who actually dreams the old dream of getting conquered by a Goddess.

dietbo said...

oh, my e-mail is:
sorry again :-)