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The purpose of this blog is to share my very deeply held views on the subject of wife-led households. A wife-led, or female-led, houseold is one where husbands submit to the loving female authority of their wives. In creating this blog, I feel like I stand on the shoulders of giants. Elise Sutton, Emily Addison and Lady Misato have all made great contributions to thinking in this space. I hope my own ideas can carry on in the thoughtful tradition of these women.
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The purpose of this blog is to share my very deeply held views on the subject of wife-led households. A wife-led, or female-led, houseold is one where husbands submit to the loving female authority of their wives. In creating this blog, I feel like I stand on the shoulders of giants. Elise Sutton, Emily Addison and Lady Misato have all made great contributions to thinking in this space. I hope my own ideas can carry on in the thoughtful tradition of these women.
28 comments:
As a Domme with a 24/7 slave I really [think I] do understand what you are saying. Sometime it takes a long time to process things. Don't let the fools get you down. I haven't cuckholded my slave though I have considered it, we have discussed it and I am much closer to it then I was even 6 months ago. What stops me? The impact on me, on him on us. I know that I'd spend hours and days and weeks thinking about it afterwords. Analyzing it, discussing it. Take all the time in the world. Or never post about it again. But DON'T let the fools get you down.
Jen
Thanks to Lady Katherine for this blog, as it has raised the level of discussion about extreme LFA activities beyond the merely titillating!
Hi Chris, thank you for your post, it may give hope to those who want to try cuckolding but are afraid their relationship might not survive if the cucking ends in disaster.
I like your blog, might you expand on this topic more over there?
A deep and greateful thank you to you all who post here, as I can learn about things I will never do from people I will never meet, who could live anywhere in the world. VERY powerful communications.
I must say that the more I read this blog the more I desire to reach the level of cuckolding that Katherine has reached in her relationship. It is my belief that before cuckolding can begin, your relationship must be mature and loving enough that life separated would not be possible. As a husband and provider to my wife, I must shower my wife with everything other than that mind blowing orgasm that she needs to receive from her boyfriend. During the period that my wife is with her lover and soon after the orgasm, I must be available to provide the secondary services that any couple needs, including oral servitude. Then I believe the wife and husband will bond at levels that a vanilla couple could only imagine reaching.
Sometimes the desire and fantasy don't match the reality. Your honesty and openess is refreshing and helpful to see.
Jon, how can you assume such a thing? There was no talk, yet, about Katherine's husband being devastated. Furthmore I don't consider her action as a break of trust. It was clear why Jim came over and it was the husband who organized it!
Keeping that in mind, he set the road for the latest happenings. He is no position to design the whole scene. That's Katherine's role. Frankly, I think it was a nice move, allthough not absolutely concious. This reflects the husbans's wishes. He might have some problems dealing with it, but he can't deny the responsibility.
Conclusion: There is no broken trust. If there is a proble, it is the husband's incapacity to deal with his emotions. I believe in Katherine that she'll help him get through this and go on, on the path of domination and cuckoldry for a very long time!
jon green and guggler,
Both of you make some good points, but at the same time, I'm not in complete agreement with either of you.
Firstly, there is a lot we don't know. Trying to hypothesize all the unknown details is somewhat presumptuous.
Katherine has never stated that she had STD tests done with Jim.
Elise Sutton is not THE AUTHORITY on how cuckolding is/should be done. Hers is one voice of opinion among many.
Katherine left it up to her husband (to whom she has never assigned a pseudonym) to set up the rendezvous with Jim. We do not know whether this is something that would have intrigued the husband, or whether he would have preferred that Katherine alone hold the power to decide when initiation of cuckolding occurs. Having to be the initiatior may have taken him out of his submissive headspace, maybe not.
Either of you may be correct or incorrect about this second cuckolding being a violation of trust. There are cuckold web sites which have thousands of members. Different couples have vastly different covenants of protocol. In some cuckold agreements, it is understood that the wife can do whatever she wants, in whatever manner she wants. In others, it is understood that the cuckolding is to occur only with the husband's knowledge and perhaps only with him present. Katherine has never spelled out these details to us. This is her blog. As such, she is free to share whatever she wants with us, whenever she wants. Maybe trust was broken, maybe it wasn't. Neither of you can claim to know for sure. As to regrets, we don't know whether there is anything to regret or not regret. Maybe they're really growing from it, but it's just so intense that Katherine has no desire to actively campaign that others try it. At the same time, now that it has happened for them, she thinks the benefits outweigh the gravitas of the challenge for them.
It seems obvious that Katherine is in a period of reflection and doesn't want us privy to her current meditations. C'est la vie. Hopefully, after she has time to process what has transpired, she will have some insightful pearls of wisdom to share with us. In the meantime, during her absense, I hope that our discussions amongst ourselves will do nothing to sour her mood toward her eventual return to blogging.
Queen's Knight: ANOTHER strong and well reasonaed and worded take by you!
Dang homeboy, when you going to start laying down a blog of your own?
You have one fan alrady and you havent evcen started yet LOL.
jon green,
Your "conclusions" are NOT reasonable and they are truly presumptuous. Stating that "we don't know for sure," is completely accurate.
It is obvious that you are no believer in Female Authority. Your posts become more and more arrogant, revealing your macho male ego. Katherine's blog wasn't authored for your edification and she has no need whatsoever to accept this absurd I invite Katherine to clear up any incorrect assumptions by posting specific details in these areas. How obnoxious! It is males like you who give men such a low image among so many women. If you have such issues with Katherine's blog, you don't have to read it. Go somewhere else.
jg,
All your verbose blather is nothing more than a projection of your own insecurities and need to control. You can spout your drivel all day, yet it is still you who has the arrogance to take a scant few details and draw full blown conclusions about the author. It is you who has the arrogance to say that the onus lies upon the author to clear up misperceptions that you may have. It is you who has the arrogance to think that she writes here solely for your benefit as though you were her only reader. It is you who has the arrogance to act as though you were her confessor and counselor, treating her as though she were a child who needs to bare all her inner thoughts to you in order that you may correct her path.
It is not I, but you, who seems to think that this is your blog. Others before you have come to this blog projecting their own pompous need to try to provoke its author. I told Katherine long ago by private e-mail that if she found any of my posts to be offensive to please delete them and that if she preferred that I not stand up to bullies like you, that I would be happy to comply with her wishes. Her reply? "Don't be silly."
No, it isn't my blog. Unlike you, however, I asked her personally about her wishes and assured her that I had no desire to write anything that would offend her. Now, just as I said to another poster, much like you, "Go home little boy, and grow up."
jg,
LOL, you are such a riot. The only reason you came here was to pick a fight with Katherine and you're steamed that you got one with me instead. She certainly hasn't deemed you worthy of replying to you, has she? Just leave her alone. I will not reply further to any of your nonsense.
Hi jon green, with all ue respect to you as an individual, and to your viewpoint, will you please go away?
The rest of us have reached a mutual equilibrium between LK's desire to tell and our collctive desire to know.
Where we are at will not satisfy you, so why dont you stop aruging with us and depart the scene?
Why is it bad to debate about these topics? I think with this controversion we can grow and learn much more. Katherine is not only offering her experience's with LFA, but a forum where many people seek and post answers.
I got to be much wiser concearning my cuckolding desires over the months as I followed Katherine's path. I was getting crazy with the cuckold-idea. But her catious and thoughtful approach to the topic and the slow realization, made me think much deeper. I owe this to Katherine and all of those who share their ideas and viewpoints.
If everybody would agree it would be a dull world. Thank God, we can talk and write and share our minds with other people. The same way we should learn to accept and tolerate the others oppinion, even if it might be opposing to ones own ideas. So, I plead you, jon and all the others to go on with your interesting postings!
Thanks.
curious George,
your words were exciting indeed. And frightening. You describe the dilemma of LFA and especially cuckolding very well. Unfortunately most men are guided not by reason, but by excitment. To have an erection when you see your wife with somebody else, doesn't make it right nor healthy. It also doesn't show if you really want this or not.
But if you find out that you can live with this situation, then you can make the best of it. I fear that nobody can foresee the feelings that will bubble up, when a husband sees the wife pleased by another man. Possibly, in ways the husband can never compete with. One can spend a lifetime philosophizing about this topic. Finally it is the leap of faith that everybody has to take or leave. And indeed, it is a risky leap.
Of course I do NOT claim that STDs aren't a threat. I trust that Katherine and everybody else is really careful with this topic. One might can fix emotional troubles, but some STDs can crush human life. Maybe we should introduce the term: sane cuckolding. :)
be well
guggler
Curious George,
I enjoyed your last comment. It was very insightful and to the point. In my last relationship, my former Mistress was always falling in love with her boyfriends and discussing marriage after only a few months of dating. A cuck has to always be aware that his wife, or Mistress, can fall in love with the other man, especially when the sex is great. Women usually equate fabulous sex with being in love. Of course, that's when the whole cuckold experience starts to unravel. Few submissive men want to have their wife, or Mistress, leave them for another male. That definitely takes the fun out of it.
HI CG, thank you for a concise, insightful, and honest expose of what goes on in cuck marriage!
Hi Wayne, you may be submissive man who craves to be cucked, but you are a Stud! You are man enough to know what you are and what you want, and you have the stones to admit it in public. That makes you a true stud because you have courage and are tough uinder duress.
I wonder how many of these so called bulls would even dream of being dominant if they had even a 6 inch junk, let alone a smaller one.
You guys rock!
PAAX toi Lady K and her hubby/servidor.
Hi Guys, I went to that post on that guys blog, I think Lady K was being sarcastic when she said her LFA marriage is over.
Note that her next sentence is something like : Mr Blackbird I would have given it all up to get with you.
Also her reply is not dated, so unless one of our regulars knows if that post by her is from around January or from around now we cant decide based on the date either.
If they are broekn up, botrh are repsonsible for the demise of their marriage, and it is hard to know how to apportion the blame if not a family insider.
Besides, IF IF IF they are apart, helping them is more important than pointing finges of blame.
PAX to all of you , and PREcaution!
Guys, I haven't been saying a whole lot on this website for the past few months, and I'll tell you why. Two different Dominant women who have read a good bit of this blog have expressed similar feelings to me that this is all a hoaz and that someone is having fun with us at our expense. I don't know if it's true, or not, but there have been some patterns here that stood out. Even iobey has noticed that something is unusual here. Though very well written and extremely exciting, not a lot has actually been said here since the end of October. At that time, Lady Katherine reached the point at which she was about to cuck her husband for the first time and then she suddenly stopped talking about it for almost two months because her husband had a problem with the after affects. There were many comments posted similar to those at this posting. Many readers questioned Katherine's motives as to why she wouldn't discuss what had happened. Eventually, Katherine did discuss the events. This then led into the second cuckolding experience over a period of time, and then there was once again an abrupt halt right when she had us at the point of no return. This has started to look like a pattern to me. I read what my two Dominant friends wrote and wondered about it. I read what iobey wrote and wondered about it. I've read all of the arguments that readers have posted here and now wonder if we have been snuckered. If this site is for real and Katherine's husband has left her, then my heart goes out to both of them for this is a sad state of events. All any of us can do is go by what was written here, which implied that both Katherine and her husband were enjoying the cuckold experience, though he had some issues to work through, which was certainly understandable. I admit to being totally shocked that her husband has left her, if it is true. None of us know for sure. Nothing in the blog suggested that there were serious problems in the marriage. And, it does seem as if both Katherine and her husband loved each other dearly. Why something couldn't be worked out between them, I don't know. People who love each other this much ususally find a way to work out the problems, rather than just walking away from the marriage. Evidently, there was more going on than we were allowed to know. I guess what this boils down to is that I don't know whether to hope that this has just been a huge joke on us, or that Katherine and her husband have really separated, which breaks my heart. What do the rest of you think? Am I totally off base here, or is there something going on that's questionable? This, of course, is Lady Katherine's blog, and she has the freedom to write whatever she wants on it. We don't have to read it, if we don't want to. I would like to see the blog continue because I have enjoyed it immensely. If the blog is true, I hope Katherine will be able to let us know what finally happened and how she and her husband are coping with it. This is important for other couples who are seeking to pursue a cuckolded relationship. Much can be learned by what happened to Katherine and her husband. Maybe we'll learn something in the next month or two. One thing I can say about Katherine's blog is that it has generated a lot of debate amongst its readers. All of you are extremely passionate about what has taken place here, and that's commendable, even if opinions differ.
I think that posting may be a hoax. LK made references to her husband in the present tense during April. The purported reply on the other blog is to a post made last December. That is a bit unusual.
Further, the syntactical structure of the sentences in that reply are not in the same style as most of Katherine's writing. LK has a peculiar style which tends to be pretty formal. Having studied the syntactical structure of a number of forign languages, it is evident to me that LK has had some formal training in syntax and grammar. Though she makes an occasional spelling error, her style is quite skilled. The reply in question is far more vernacular.
Finally, the content of the reply is out of character for LK. This guy is not her type.
I openly acknowledge that I certainly could be wrong. I am not claiming to know for sure. Still, it does not all add up and at this point, I don't buy it.
jon green,
Did you, or did you not recently post these words:
I would like the same respect and courtesy you all ask for yourselves: let me peruse this blog quietly in peace. If I post something to Katherine, you may ignore it, as I intend to ignore all posts not directed at me. Fair enough?
You just can't resist, can you? You obviously are not a man of your word. I stated that I didn't know for sure. You disavow your pledge and call Katherine's work fiction, as if it were a known fact. As I said to you once before, none of us knows for sure. The last time I said that, you went off on your sarcastic drivel. After several of us told you we'd like you to go away, you made your great declaration above. Are we now gonna hear more psychobabble and rationalization or can you eat the crow that you just cooked for yourself?
Yep,
Just as I figured, rationalization. Always think you are right, period. Can't accept that you made a pledge, then went right back on it. Not even willing to acknowledge it. Threatened by you? God I got a good laugh out of that!!! Tee, hee, hee :-)
HOAX EXPOSED
jon green made the statement that if one clicked on the link to the post in question, it would take the reader right back to Katherine's blog.
Well, I followed that link, and guess what? It's not Katherine's blog. It is set up to look somewhat like Katherine's blog, but even a cursory inspection shows it's a fake.
Katherine's real Blogspot ID # is 11200342. The ID # for the fake page is 16146606. Katherine registered in July of 2005. The fakir registered in December of 2005. The Real Katherine's profile has been viewed in excess of 14,000 times, the bogus one just over 400 times. Please readers, don't take my word for it, go check it out yourselves.
December is about the same time that a troublemaker named staronrock showed up here during Katherine's first period of time away. We had a few rounds due to his very rude treatment of LK. When Katherine returned, this staronrock suddenly disappeared. Later this jon greene shows up during Katherine's second period of absence.
As I examine their writings, it seems that the same style and neuroses appear in the writings of each. It is jon green who suddenly showed up here, claiming to have the evidence that Katherine's husband had left her. Well Mr. Green, you brought bogus information. I think that it is you who created a fake profile so that you could come stir things up during Katherine's absence. I think you intended to do this when Katherine was absent the first time. To your surprise, she returned and you were foiled. But you bided your time, and now that she is absent again, you decided to pull your little prank. I think that you were still all bent out of shape over our previous discourse. Some of the very first of your posts as jon green, took great effort to discredit my positions. It is not I who is threatened by you. That is a psychological projection of the manner in which you are so threatened by me. Now you have been caught.
I was sure the post was fake. I had practice in graduate school of distinguishing different writers by their syntactic styles-and in foreign languages at that. In your effort to provide evidence that the post was authentic, you pointed out that it linked back to Katherine's site. Thank you for doing that. I hate to tell you though, you didn't do such a great job creating your fake page. You are as amateurish as they come. Of course, if that post and link suddenly and mysteriously vanish, we'll know why and how, won't we? Wonder how long it'll take you to try to erase the evidence?
So, did it make you feel powerful to get these other guys all distraught over Katherine's plight? Did you like playing and toying with them, getting them to reveal their deepest emotions in this column?
Go away you little weasel. Stop trying to take advantage of a Goddess who is in a vulnerable position. You are no believer in LFA/FLR. You're just a pathetic grotesque little Gollum looking for attention.
Hi Roger Ernst, to some extent I agree with what you say.
Most of this male fantasy stuff is best left as fantasy, but for some people the stuff described herein works really well! It can end in a train wreck for the marriage, but does not necessarily have to.
You make and EXCELLENT point about the man who did not tell his wife about his submissive desires BEFORE they got married abrogating his duty to behave like a non wimp man. Pleae note all submissive men are not wimps, and all Ladies are not happiest with a so called vanilla man for a spouse either.
I think you make a good point that many of the Ladies will eventually come to disrespect their oldman/hubby if the FemDom goes too far, but that depends on the wisdom of the Lady and her knowledge of LFA and of course on the nature of the hubbys submission.
But remeber you are looking at life through your experieinces and yor position in life.
What if a Lady finds out her old man cheated on her afte they have a few kids. He is basically ok to live with except he cant keep his pecker in his pants. What is wrong with her putting him in chastity, cropping him til he babbles a tearful apology, and taking over the family authority and money? NOTHING..... If it saves their marriage, allows him to expunge his guilt, and keeps the kids from growing up under divorce.
I am a mostly dominant switch who has strong reservations about some of the more extreme humiliations and am genrally against cuckolding.
I believe in the snactitiy of church wedding and the subsequent marriages, so much of what is describved here is off limits for me. Much of what is left is off limits because eithe I or my wife are ddis-interested in it.
But Roger, that does not mean I cant learn from the people here, or empathize with them, or TRUTH be known use their escapades as hot FANTASY fodder for better sex with my incredible wife or my minita--aka--"Rosita La Palma"
If your way works for you, more power to you, and I ma sure you mean well by your heads up to the sub-men here.
Please remember most of these guys have struggled with what they feel for decades, and what they feel or crave is not some fad or whim. It is part of who they are deep inside. It midght be wiser for them to supress it or sublimate the associated drive in anothe direction, but please dont presume to think they have never pondered objections sucha s yours.
Peace to you, Roger, OB.
Roger,
You do have a point! My first wife told me over thirty years ago that I needed to get professional help for my pervert inclinations. Like Oldbear wrote, I (and probably others like me) have been fighting these desires for a very long time and they don't seem to be going away any time soon. Most marriages today don't seem to last more than five years or so. I don't know if a Female Led marriage is having any better success. I doubt if any statistics have been done yet on this particular subject. I know that I need to be with a woman who shares my desire to be in a marriage based on Female Domination. I just can't see myself getting into another vanilla relationship and being unhappy and making my mate unhappy. This is what I need in a relationship, so this is what I'm looking for. It's wrong to equate male submission to a woman as being weak, just like it's wrong to equate being gay as being a whimp. Men come in all types of packages. Inner strength also comes in different types of packages. Men can be strong in many different ways. A submissive male can demonstrate strength in the work force, or when his family is attacked. True, some might be whimps, but certainly not all.
Jon Green,
Thanks for the compliment, but I don't think I've ever won any awards for my erotica. At least none that I'm aware of. I would be the first to say that my writing, while good to a certain extent, is nothing but masturbation material for the submissive male and maybe for a few Dominant women. I do try raise the level of my fiction above what's being written out there today with decent characters and a look at the emotions that can be experienced when in a Dominant Female relationship, but that's all. I write for my own pleasure first and then the pleasure of the readers. And, I have to be honest in that there are a lot of people who think what I write is pure crap. I never answer their e-mails :-)) I wouldn't advise anyone to trust my instincts about Katherine's blog. I could very well be wrong about everything. In fact, I hope I am. Use your own judgement. Still, I intend to keep coming back here because I love Katherine's writing, and I also get a kick out of the comments from the readers. When Katherine doesn't post for a long period of time, the comments are what keeps the blog moving along. You know the old saying about an opinion being like an asshole--everybody has one. We all seem to differ in our opinions here, and that's okay. It gives us food for thought. No one opinion is better than anybody else's. I can't help but wonder what Katherine thinks about all of this. What would her opinion be :-))
When I checked last night, the counterfeit profile had been viewed 432 times. As of now, it has been viewed 477 times. The evidence has been examined 45 times by up to that many people. jg says, if it is a hoax... Nevertheless, the facts remain: the ID numbers differ, the view counts differ, the registration dates differ, the counterfeit is linked to no blog, and it is jon green who brought the counterfeit post and profile to us, claiming that LK's husband had left her.
Friday, John Allen Mohammed, acting as his own attorney in the sniper case, made the claim during his closing arguments that all the evidence against him was fabricated, that he was innocent and being framed. The vast majority of people have enough common sense to put two and two together. In spite of that, compulsive liars just can't give it up.
This must be a record; 59 responses to a four line posting that basically says nothing.
I was thinking the exact same thing, except the count is now sixty-one. Whoever Lady Katherine is, we'll have to ask her the secret to this phenominum!
Why is there so much traffic for such a small blog entry? I for one can't get enough on the topic of cuckolding. The writing of the blog entries and the lively discussions afterwards has brought me back to view daily. I have previously visited a site that had tremendous traffic until the spammers have taken over and killed the site - http://www.adultcommunitiesonline.com
The forum is located off this website and can be reached by adding this to the end of the above URL -/forums/cuckold/index.html. The result is a blank page. In the past this was filled with numerous cuckold forum entries. I do miss reading this.
If other people have other sites that can fill the void, publish these sites. Having alternative sites would be helpful while we wait for another blog entry. That's if, there will be one....
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